The Importance of Closure – 2

In the last post I have talked about getting a closure by ourself and accepting things to move on in life. Of course, a closure for what it is worth would help us to let go of our past and provides us an incentive to look forward. There’s some time where everyone needs an emotional closure, to deal with a break-up, a let off or a “self” let down or anything else, for that matter. No wonder, psychiatrists make a lot of money.

Emotional closure means looking out for someone to help us out or bail us out from our current trauma. If that someone is called “self”, our life is going to be extremely cheerful. If not, there has to be someone to help us retain our lost identity. For simplicity, let’s call that someone, “society”. Of course, it’s no wrong to be expecting it. In fact, we as a part of society should try to bail out someone from their tragedy if it’s in our reach and restore harmony, if we can. That’s exactly what living for the world is like. We don’t really understand it properly. The concept it self is widely misunderstood. For a fact, emotional closure is still an afterthought, not a priority, in our society. Ironic! Most of us generally associate emotional closures to relationships, yes true, not picking on it. Sure there is a need to help those whose relationships have ended, for whatever reason, to transition into interpersonal autonomy. But what about those who never experienced the relationships in the first place, those whose relationships never took off or matured because of the issues they were dealing with that prevented the intimacy that should precede emotional closure to begin with? When does society help those people; I took help from self, but is that “self” always there for individuals, particularly when they’re weird and different and scary and can’t hide it to themselves, can’t “clean up well”, so to speak.

We can’t pick and choose who we help in this society. There will always be individuals who walk around depressed and suicidal, which in effect is the ultimate fallout from not having experienced the satisfaction of emotional closure in fact it is an ongoing lack of closure, that has turned into something else that is rather disturbing. But we all have that responsibility to try, perhaps we can only go so far in helping, perhaps we fail to have the tools to help someone else find closure because we lack it ourselves it could be anything. Any little bit helps to make the world a better place, and attempts at prioritizing emotional closure, as genuine or disingenuous as they may often seem, are but another way in which our collective psyche tries to come to terms with the ways in which post-modern society tries to move about at a pace in which only part of us can truly keep up with. Fortunately, some closures can be really simple. Like, having a cheese-burst pizza 5 hours after ordering it might have an impact on you in giving up pizzas for good.

Also from an individual’s point of view, it’s important to have feet firmly on ground, or shall I say pragmatic? We have gotta stop hallucinating about things and learn to live in a real world where things are more probabilistic than deterministic. For example, aah, to talk the trend –

Falling for someone on a social networking site is sad enough and to seek an emotional closure on top of it when you know that it’s never meant to work out, well, it’s just touching the base of misery. There might not be any perspective there. But how often have we done things correctly upright? It’s exactly the kind that needs help.

Self-help books and counsellings really wont work, what works is clarity and a distinction between what is plausible and what is not. It’s not confusing to draw a line between what is real and what is surreal. It’s only difficult because we tend to fantasize a bit too much. Till we could come out of our fantasies and start being real, we’d go nowhere. That is attaining closure. Learning to be practical, that’s when we can find a closure by ourselves. But always remember, if it’s in your hands to offer closure and help someone move on, by all means do so. You would only make the world a better place to live by restoring harmony in others’ life which otherwise would have been distraught.

With that, I’m off to seeking closure on a couple of things and offer closure to where it is due! I’m not sure if I would be able to nail the former but the latter I’m going to.

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